How I lost 20 lbs in 6 weeks…
So, just like everyone else, sometimes, even as a “professional trainer,” I have to look at the face in the mirror and ask him, “are you happy?… are you achieving your fitness goals?… are you achieving your goals in general?”
Or more importantly, “are you doing all you can to achieve those goals?”
Now, I don’t want to get off on too much of a tangent. I do want to try my best to keep this relevant to the topic at hand which is fitness… but I have to touch on my “other goals” too simply because they do play a part to where I was at the time of this conversation with the man in the mirror.
You see, we have “things” in our life that seem to take maybe too much of our allotted time. Some are good “things,” some are not, and some are “good” but still begin to consume us and therefore could be classified almost as “bad.”
One of my “things” is that I tend to consume myself with work. I don’t feel that I put aside my family or my friends, but I love what I do, and with the crazy hours that come with being a personal trainer, there is always a constant struggle to balance the hours in the day between all my different roles.
I’m sure you can relate. Just think about it… how many roles do you have in a typical day? I bet there’s even more than you think…
For instance, on any given day, I get to play the part of:
- Sales manager
- And so on and so forth…
I truly believe if we all sat down and listed out the different roles we each play in a given day, that the list could fill up a book.
The issue isn’t playing different roles in your life, the issue is finding the balance and beginning to prioritize what roles are important enough to demand so much of your time and which roles can be let go or at least put to the bottom of the list for a given time.
For me, roles relating to my family and my clients have always been most important. So, these are still “good” roles to have and to appreciate, no?
But… I the conversation with the man in the mirror made me realize that if I let my roles promised to others dominate my life, that there will be no time to focus on one role that was left off the above list… the role of “Self.”
I realized that I was more often putting the needs of others in front of my own personal goals and was justifying that because that’s what a good husband, father, trainer, employer is supposed to do… not that is totally wrong, but do you not agree that I would definitely be able to do all my roles more efficiently and with more energy if in fact I was also taking time for “self.”
I learned that I was tending to put my workouts off to “finish the next Facebook post” or taking work home with me when I should be devoting that time exclusively to wrestling with B and Mars at the house. And even, something I’m not too proud of, I would put items that Mikah asked me to do on the bottom of my to do list because of all the other items I still “had” to get done.
Now, please don’t go thinking that I was a dead beat dad or that I didn’t appreciate my wife… far from the truth… but I didn’t feel that I was able to give them or anyone for that matter 100% because I was stretched too thin.
Hopefully that makes sense and gives you a back story as to why it’s important to where we’re going next here…
With all that said, I decided to take action. Starting with my family time at home… no more working late every night and definitely no more constantly checking email or text messages once I hit the door…. BOOM! I can do that… now what?
Well, the next thing was my fitness… where was I and where did I want to be?
Here’s something that will shock you… I didn’t have a goal written down! I was literally going through the motions and just “working out.”
As much as I preach to you guys about getting goals and staying focused… I fell short. I was more focused on helping others achieve their goals that I was literally just going through the motions in my own sporadic workouts.
Sure I would get in a few sessions per week… but they had no direction. They had no life of their own. And I typically spent most of the session thinking about what else I needed to get done that day and not focusing on the training session itself.
Once I realized this, needless to say I was beyond pissed off!
The man in the mirror looked right into my eyes and said, “Watkins, quit feeling sorry for yourself and pull your shit together!”
And that’s what I did!
And that’s the start of how I’ve lost 20 lbs over these past 6 weeks.
Let’s break it down…
First thing I did, I knew I needed a quick jump start… something that had worked for me in the past and gotten the ball rolling on some good results.
Enter the 24 Day Advocare Challenge!
Now, results have been mixed with this challenge, but the first time I did it prior to our trip to Mexico in February I was able to drop 14 lbs! So, Mikah and set up a new challenge and got back strict on the carb cycling.
You see, my diet was not way off… I mean, I was eating “healthy” but I have to admit that I was slacking a bit in my meal prep Sundays and was eating out way too much.
On the Challenge, using the provided supplements, and meal created Mikah and I created, I was successfully able to drop 17 lbs in 24 days!… Not too shabby…
Of course the Challenge itself ended the weekend of July 4th, and with that came our 4th of July Bash, Andolini’s Pizza, and a trip to the lake!
BOOM!… Just like that my new net weigh loss was like 12 lbs or so… I successfully gaind 5 or 6 lbs over one flipping weekend…
But wasn’t just the diet that was off… I still was just going through the motions in my workouts… in fact, I didn’t even workout for the last 10 days or so of the Challenge as we prepped for the 4th of July Bash (another role collision).
So again, I had to tighten back up my nutrition and get a training program together ASAP! No more BS, time to get on it!
For my nutrition, the biggest differences I quickly installed were:
- Sunday Meal Prep was back and badder than ever. And
- I started weighing my foods again as I prepped my meals! This strict portion control has been the biggest difference for me and my success thus far!
Next, I had to get a training program together. But I wanted something new. I needed a fresh pair of eyes to look at me and my goals and help me develop something “new and improved” for Trainer Mike here… in essence… I needed a trainer!
I sat down with one of my bodybuilding buddies and went to work.
NOTE: I’m not, let me repeat, NOT training for a bodybuilding show! But I had not done that high volume style lifting personally in quite a while so I was interested to see what he had in mind.
Fast forward, I haven’t missed a session since we came up with this new program and I’m absolutely LOVING how I’m looking and feeling!
This is fun, and kinda embarrassing, to say but I’m back in the 240’s now for the first time in a while. I typically hover around 250-255 lbs and at my biggest I got upwards of 267 lbs and justified it as I was big and strong and carried a lot of muscle… and that’s not entirely false…
But I was BIG and STRONG for sure… but I was kinda just BIG… no definition, not really sporting the hard, muscular look I once had and I was sick of just being the BIG and STRONG guy… time to be the BIG, STRONG and RIPPED guy I used to be!
It’s funny, when my buddy asked me as we were coming up with this new program what my goal was, I almost immediately responded, “I want to look like the Rock and still be able to swing a golf club!”… he gave me a weird look when I said swing a golf club, but I’m ok with that.
But, now, I just weighed in and I’m almost 21 pounds down from my initial starting weight when we began the Challenge almost 6 weeks ago.
I feel better about me and where I’m going more so than I have in years.
I’m having to buy XL shirts instead of XXL shirts for the first time since like high school.
I’m more confident and committed to my nutrition and training program than I have been since college.
And the best part is that I truly feel that because of my new found success and overall well being and devotion to “Self” that I’m a better husband, a better father, a better trainer, a better friend, a better mentor and a better anything else I need to be!
I still want to help people meet their goals. I still want to be the best trainer in Tulsa. I just feel more apt to be able to do that now.
So, the take home from all this is:
- Figure out where you’re falling short when it comes to the different roles you play.
- Begin to prioritize your different roles and the time you devote to each
- BUT don’t neglect the role of “self.”
And as far as getting great results from your program, I challenge you to:
- Look at your nutrition and tighten up.
- Take meal prepping seriously and invest in a scale to weigh out your portions
- Drink ½ your body weight in water every day! (I forgot to mention this earlier, but I drink a gallon of water every day now!)
- Look at your workouts… are you just showing up? Or are you showing up to kick ass and consistently improve at least 1% each and every session? Don’t just go through the motions. If that’s the case, drop the workouts and devote that time to a different role in your life. It’s all about balance!
- Stay focused and keep track of where you are in relation to your goals via food logs, training logs, weigh ins, how your clothes are fitting or whatever you need to use to make sure you’re continuing to stay the course.
- Reach out to me and the team at FT! We’re here to help you see it through and change your life.
Undoubtedly, this post may make some of you think different of dear old Trainer Mike here. But, now that it’s out there, I’m positive even more of you can relate to the struggles I illustrated and now can see that despite the sometimes inadvertent obstacles that are sure to arise from day to day… results can and will happen. All you have to so is look in the mirror and tell that person to pull it together and let’s dominate this life together!
Oh and just to close it out… I’ve included Mikah’s favorite Michael Jackson song here for your viewing and listening pleasure… I think it goes well with the topic at hand.